Therapy & Coaching for EUPD & Self-Harm

what to expect

Compassionate, specialist, evidence-based talking therapy treatments
Skills coaching and personalised practical support

If you’re struggling with intense emotions, unstable relationships, difficulties with impulsivity, a lack of identity, or self-harm, I’m here to help. Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder (EUPD), also sometimes referred to as Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), and more recently Complex Emotional and Relational Needs (CERN) can be such an isolating experience that comes with real stigma. Living with EUPD can be alienating, but you don’t have to face it alone. I can help you understand your brain, build skills to regulate and stay safe, and work towards more stable and meaningful relationships.

  • For many people, receiving an EUPD diagnosis can be a double-edged sword of relief from gaining some understanding, but also represent a loss of support. I’m passionate about giving people with EUPD access to appropriate, meaningful, supportive care.
  • I am trained in and use specialist, evidence-based therapies for EUPD such as DBT and schema therapy
  • I integrate these therapies with motivational interviewing and compassion-focused therapy to provide trauma-informed, relational, and compassionate care.
  • We’ll explore the factors that contribute to your EUPD as well as work on developing practical skills around emotion regulation, distress tolerance, and interpersonal effectiveness.
  • We’ll also practically and collaboratively address risk management and structured safety planning together.
  • As someone who has previously struggled with self-harm, I know first-hand that it’s not ‘for attention’ – it’s a coping tool that serves a function, like to try to reduce unbearable emotion, to feel real, to punish, to communicate distress, or to regain a sense of control.
  • Understanding the psychological and interpersonal patterns maintaining your distress, and the function of self-harm, are key parts of therapy.
  • I recognise that ambivalence around self-harm and safety can be normal for people. While some people feel ready to completely eliminate self-harm from their life, others might feel more uncertain about totally ‘letting go’ of something that’s been an important coping tool.
  • I use a harm-reduction approach in all my work with clients.
  • People with EUPD often carry deep fears of abandonment or feelings of emptiness and confusion around who they are alongside the exhaustion of living with rapid mood changes and big, sudden emotions. Add to that the stigma that can come from others about EUPD or self-harm, and it is a truly brutal condition to live with.
  • I’ve worked with many people with EUPD over the years in different contexts and services. My approach is stigma-free, open-minded, supportive, and collaborative.

How long does therapy take?

I don’t require a commitment to any number of sessions. I encourage clients to work towards a meaningful piece of therapeutic change at a pace that feels right.

How often and when are sessions?

I work flexibly and can step sessions up or down in frequency or length depending on your needs, often progressing from weekly sessions to fortnightly, monthly, then ad-hoc.

Do you offer shorter sessions?

I offer regular clients 30-minute “booster” sessions (at half the cost) if you need extra support around triggers such as holidays, anniversaries, or exams.

Standard Session Fee
£120/Session
  • Regular clients can block book with me at £110/session.
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Introductory Bundle
£100/Session
  • This block of 4 sessions at a discounted rate is available for new clients.
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Pay What you can
from £60/Session
  • I offer concession rates for clients facing adversity.
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